Barbara Fredrickson, Distinguished Professor of Psychology and principal investigator of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Laboratory (a.k.a. PEP Lab) at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill is teaching a course on Positive Psychology through Coursera. Her research on the impact of positive emotions shows that even though they may seem fleeting, they can increase our overall well-being.
An exercise that is part of week one of the course involves choosing one of ten positive emotions to explore actively by creating a portfolio of mementos, memories, reminders and objects around that one emotion that brings it to life.
In an article published by Dr. Fredrickson, she explains the circumstances where joy emerges and what can come from experiencing joy.
“Joy emerges when one’s current circumstances present unexpected good fortune. People feel joy, for instance, when receiving good news or a pleasant surprise. Joy creates the urge to play and get involved, or what Frijda (1986) termed free activation, defined as an “aimless, unasked-for readiness to engage in whatever interaction presents itself” (p. 89). The durable resources created through play are the skills acquired through the experiential learning it prompts.”
I choose joy to focus on and then was delighted to see the relationship to play. I have said many times recently that I want to play more… joy and play such a lovely loop.
Here is the beginning of my reflections on JOY.
Willow’s Beach Wedding – snow in the forecast

My oldest daughter had a 3 part wedding: the first was a civil ceremony with immediate family in British Columbia, second was a celebration and exchange of commitments with friends and community at a hall later that same day and several months later was a summer celebration with family and friends at our cottage in Ontario. Part 1 was a formality that was not deemed to be important compared to the time with people who mattered the most.
Snow was forecast and that is no small thing in Victoria BC. People stay home and off the roads. The justice of the peace was shocked that we wanted to walk the block down to Willow’s Beach for the vows. We had had a great casual lunch of Italian wedding soup and Jen had her black wedding dress on. Whether it was snubbing her nose at convention or not it was her being true to herself. She just liked that dress. We had Frances Litman as our photographer. Jen’s husband-to-be was not so sure about photos. The ceremony was short and sweet and yet we had big grins. The lone dog on the beach on this pre-snow day came to the wedding. Everything was so right. Everyone threw their coats off and Frances the consummate professional worked her magic in a matter of minutes.
It was a bit of a surprise how joyful we felt. After all it was freezing and not the main event, but the wonderful feeling remains with me as I look at this photo.
This Kid
My grandson is associated with so many positive emotions. This photo was taken on a cold and rainy August Wednesday in Fenelon Falls at the weekly Museum Tea. It was the perfect day to stay on the sofa reading but we went into town and sat out in the elements for tea and scones. It was a juggling act to keep both our treats and ourselves dry, but no one was complaining. Wee Arlo was delighted to have people playing with him and having fun. I love this moment of connection and the joy in being together even though we were huddled and making jokes about how uncomfortable we were. Sometimes I catch moments between my daughter and her son which warm my heart as I see how lovely she is with him. His delight in the small things he finds is a never-ending source of joy.
The last day of a ski holiday
I remember the joy that I would feel usually during one run at the end of the day especially if it was sunny. I was never a good skier but every once and a while everything would fall into place and I would find my rhythm. I always played an old Motown tune in my head and getting into sync with it was so much fun. I felt light and uplifted and carried away. This is not a clip of anyone I know but has the music and freedom that reminds me of those experiences.
Spring Sun
I’ve always loved that first time the ground is warm enough and you get to lie down and bake in the sun for the first time. When I was an elementary school kid I also remember the first day you could walk to school without wearing heavy winter boots. My feet felt so light that I skipped all the way and stayed out playing as long as I could. It was pure freedom.
William Blake : Eternity
He who binds to himself a joy
Does the winged life destroy;
But he who kisses the joy as it flies
Lives in eternity’s sun rise.
Remember when HAPPY made you happy
I love how people latched onto this positive message and had such fun expressing it – some joyful moments at the time even if we did overdose on it and it lost some its gleam. People were really playful and creative with this song.
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